LOOKING OUT FOR EACH OTHER
I'm worried about someone...
Sometimes you might notice a change in the behaviour or mood of a mate, and you might be worried. The first and most important step is initiating a conversation, and sometimes this can be hard.
INITIATE THE CONVERSATION
Approach the conversation like you would any other. Try asking an open-ended question to get things started. Here are some conversation starters if you're not sure what to say:
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What's been happening, I've noticed you don't seem to have been yourself lately?
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I'm always here for a chat, has anything been bothering you?
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How are you coping with ______ at the minute?
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How have you been feeling- you don't seem to be your usual self lately?
Something is wrong
At first, you might not be sure what to say. Keep your conversation going as you usually would, but don't avoid the issue. Listen to their concerns. You might ask:
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I'm ready to listen and talk if you want to.
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What's been happening?
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How long have you been feeling like this?
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Has anything happened to make you feel this way?
"No I'm fine"
(but you're pretty sure something is wrong)
It might be difficult for your friend to open up. If you do feel there is something wrong, ask a follow up question- something like:
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It's just you don't seem usual self
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Remember I'm always here if you need to talk
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Is there someone else you want to talk to?
Take time to listen
As a friend it's important to listen to the concerns of your friend with an open mind. Maybe you have had a similar experience and can offer to share some advice to deal with the problem.
Encourage them to seek further support and take action
It's important to remember- it's not your job to fix their problem. If you are concerned, the best thing you can do is encourage your friend to speak up and seek help- whether that be to a teacher at school, a responsible adult or a professional.
Check in again.
Set yourself a reminder to check in with your mate in a couple of days to see how they are going.